Is it really true that a woman whose main job is caring for her children at home is not a “person”? Is it the case that stay-at-home mothers fail to develop their personalities or mature as human beings?
But mothering is a highly complex job that requires enormous professionalism and responsibility. You are supervising the growth and development of human beings in a way that will make an indelible mark on their characters and destiny, including their immortal souls. “If anyone causes one of these little ones — those who believe in me — to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea,” (Mt 18:6) our Lord warns all mothers and fathers.
Dealing with children is a highly specialized job within the social division of labor. It is invaluable for the “consumers” who are the children; it requires non-trivial skills; and it can be highly rewarding, as the mother watches her children grow and improve in nature, virtues, and arts.
If the job is well-done, then the children will grow up to be holy and eager to seek their own happiness and that of other people. They themselves will have children. And they will become friends with their parents. Achieving these goals is extremely difficult and requires full self-giving, attention to detail, delicate discernment of spirits, patience, understanding, and numerous other qualities that are unlikely to be present in a woman at the outset and are developed in the process of looking after her children. The woman, too, grows in her powers of doing good to her children.
Quite frankly, I am in awe of the women who have successfully brought up their children. A person finishes his maturation in his 30s. A mother must then supply her child for 30 years with unfailing love and devotion. This is unbelievably hard, but fun, too.
No, a woman becomes a great person, if she cares for her children well.